Today I'm thrilled to welcome back Mr. Romance himself, Charles Paz, who first blogged with me after he won the title in April. This is a very special post that he wrote himself, and its message holds true for all of us. Thank you for being here, Charles!

THE REDEMPTION OF MR.ROMANCE
"You have to fall, before you can rise..."

Redemption. An act of redeeming or the state of being redeemed. Deliverance. Salvation. At one time or another, we all have gone through this. We fault. We fail. We fall. We then realize what we could do to make things better. To right our wrongs. To redeem ourselves. To prove to ourselves just what we can accomplish. And to silence the nay-sayers. No matter how many obstacles come our way, we are fueled by the desire to break through those barriers in our quest for greatness.
This is just one example. This is just one story. This is my Road to Redemption...
Let’s begin this at the 2009 RT Convention. When most of you last saw me, I was onstage. Flashing lights. Holding trophies with a big smile on my face. Not only winning the Mr. Romance title, but also winning the Readers Choice Award. I have never won anything in my life! I was very grateful and humbled by the events that took place not only that day, but the whole week. It truly was an awesome moment of triumph in my life. Even afterward was great. People coming to me and saying they would love me for their bookcovers. Authors wanting to do interviews with me for their websites. I even had "agents" tell me all the things they wanted to do for me, how to market me and make me a star. I was on cloud nine. But, like a cloud, I had no idea this feeling of greatness would soon slowly evaporate and disappear.
Fast forward to the end of June. The time had come to where I got to shoot for the Dorchester cover. New York here I come. I was very excited. Had the plane ride, got picked up at the airport. Felt like a star! Things were great. I met the wonderful people at Dorchester before the photo shoot. Awesome. Had a blast during the shoot. The model was gorgeous. Atmosphere was great and I was still on that cloud nine from the RT Convention.
Before booking my flight back home to California, my "agent" convinced me to fly to Florida first and shoot for an author and do some other projects that would be "good for me" and “make me look better in the readers’ eyes". It was a financial struggle to scrape up enough money for the plane ticket. I got on the plane and didn't even have enough money in the bank to pull out a $20 from the ATM. But I figured it was an “investment.” These people wouldn’t steer me wrong.
My arrival in Florida was the beginning of the end. The story RT did about “behind the scenes of a cover shoot” got picked up by an online blog site with lots of readers. I could only stare at the screen when I was reading some of the comments people left. "What a Joke," one of them said. "Looks like Mr. Romance should be called Mr. Doughnut" said another. Pathetic. Lame. Fat. Worthless. The list went on and on. Reality was driving an 18-wheeler and blind-sided me from the back. I had had so much confidence for once, and had felt good about myself and who I am. The doubt grew greater while I was shooting in Florida. My "agent" told me “maybe when you are in a big budget studio and actually do a real photo shoot, you could be somebody."
The plane ride back home to Cali was a very long one. With thoughts of self-doubt consuming me, I sat in seat 22E between the mother with her crying baby and the businessman looking over papers. It was bad enough to have total strangers tell me I'm nothing while hiding behind a computer screen, but to have the people who I trusted with my career tell me I am worthless was a whole different story.

The following few days were hard. I spent most of the day looking at the ceiling while I lay on the floor in my bedroom. Knocks at my door from my mother seeing if I was OK. She knew what I was going through. She had seen it before. But she also knew that this was not the worst I have been, and the look of sadness in her face turned into a grin. "You’re planning your next move aren't you?" she said. I grinned. "Of course I am. And I know exactly what I'm going to do."
I decided to train for the Sacramento NPC Body Building competition. What better way to get my body back in shape than to set that as a Goal right? I went to my mentor and best friend, Sean Sangalang,, and told him what had happened and my plan to overcome this negative setback in my life. He said, "let’s do this," and began to get me on my diet and cardio regimen. Getting ready for a show takes a lot of hard work and discipline. I missed out on many barbecues, birthday parties, and even weddings. I was determined to redeem myself and silence the critics. I wanted to prove to people that I'm not a joke. That I am worth something. That I deserved the good things that had come to me in my life.
People in the sport of bodybuilding know that the last week is the most critical. Everything you have worked hard for can be lost within the last few days and in an instant, you can go from first place to not even finish over night. Late Thursday night I was awakened by some of the sharpest pains in my stomach I have ever had. I was supposed to eat nine times on Friday to help get my muscles full. I barely ate twice. "Do I have the H1N1 flu? Is this really happening? Not now. Not Now. Not.... Now." I didn't want to quit. On the morning of the show, I was weak and fatigued. At the beginning of the week, I had weighed 220lbs. By Friday, I was down to about 207. The morning of the show, I was down to 193. Fourteen pounds overnight. I was dehydrated and struggling. It finally came time to walk onstage with my group. Every step was agony. Holding each pose brought pain to the muscles. Everything ached. The pain in my stomach was damn near unbearable.

But at that point I realized I hadn’t been that happy in a long time. Each pose I hit drew a smile from my face. Why? I was onstage. I had achieved my goal. All the people who had doubted my potential and wanted to see me fail could not take that moment away from me. Although I was in pain, I still stood there on stage with my head held high, smiling. I ended up taking a respectable fifth place.
The Redemption of Mr. Romance was fueled by all the negativity thrown at me from the critics and people who I thought were on my side. But there was also a deeper and more important redemption. The Redemption of Charles Paz, which was fueled by all the positive things I have in my life.
I started this story off when I was at high point in my life. But what happened Before the “Mr. Romance?” Before the covers? Before the fame? I'm not from a modeling agency, nor am I an actor. I'm just me. The guy next door who took advantage of an opportunity that presented itself. Not too long before the RT Convention, I was at one of the all time lowest parts of my life. I started to think about the good things in my life. The little things that we take for granted such as our family. Our friends. Ourselves.

Mr. Romance is an award based on the physical look you have, to be able to create a character and sell it. The readers’ choice, on the other hand, was based on me being myself. I'm learning now that it’s not about the looks, or the trophies, or proving people wrong. It’s about being who I am, because in the end that is what matters most. I find myself now not necessarily trying to become a man of much success, but rather trying to become a man of value to the people I surround myself with.